My 2nd tip to help your baby Sleep Like a Baby, is to learn your newborn’s language. Your baby is talking to you! Newborns have their own language with their newborn cries, and if you can master it, you can help your baby be more comfortable. And really, these tips are all about making baby more comfortable, so that your baby can sleep better and you can too.
My husband and I found ourselves at our wit’s end lying down on the floor of our first child’s nursery. Our newborn was lying next to us crying. He had been crying and crying. We had tried this, we had tried that. We were going through our mental checklist trying to figure out what he needed.
Then it dawned on me- my poor baby was crying because he was hungry. In my sleep deprived state, I had forgotten that it had been a little while since he’d eaten (perhaps because it didn’t feel like that long ago to me, since newborns eat all the time).
Tip #2: Learn to Interpret Baby Cries:
By the time I had my second baby; however, I had learned that newborns have their own little language. So, whenever he cried, I knew what he needed. He seemed to trust me more than my first baby, and he was a much happier and more laid back baby.
The Language of Newborn Baby Cries: What are They Trying to Tell Us?
Think about your baby’s cry as their way of communicating! When you do, you’ll start to notice that not all their little cries are the same.
“I’m Hungry”
A newborn’s hungry cry is a low-pitched, rhythmic, and repetitive cry that sounds like “wah wah wah”. The cry is often accompanied by other signals, such as:
● Rooting for the breast
● Sucking motions with the tongue
● Lip-smacking
● Putting fingers into the mouth
The sound “neh” is created when a baby’s tongue touches the roof of their mouth, which creates a sucking reflex. The sound is similar to a lamb bleating.
Other signs that a baby is hungry include:
● Moving fists to the mouth
● Turning the head to look for the breast
● Becoming more alert and active
● Sucking on hands or lip smacking
It’s important to respond to hunger cries immediately.
“I’m Sleepy”
A newborn’s sleep cry sounds like, “owh”. This sound is created when the baby yawns and exhales.
“I’m in Pain”
A newborn’s pain cry is high-pitched, piercing, and grating. It can start without warning and be long, loud, and shrill. The cry may be followed by a big pause, as if the baby is holding their breath.
“I’m Overstimulated”
A newborn’s overstimulated cry sounds similar to a tired cry, which is long and hard. The cry is usually not as loud as other cries and often staccato. Overstimulation can escalate to shrieking.
Other signs of overstimulation include:
● Avoiding eye contact
● Constant head turning
● Flailing arms and legs
● Turning their head away from you or other stimuli
● Batting angrily at objects
To soothe an overstimulated baby, you can try:
● Removing yourself from the environment
● Dimming the lights
● Rocking the baby
● Shushing
● Singing softly to them
If your baby is crying in a way that sounds different from their normal cry, and/or their crying is continuous, it may be a signal that they are in some sort of pain or discomfort.
“I’m gassy”
Often accompanied by the baby pulling up their legs or arching their back. This cry can sound grunty or strained.
Tips for Calming a Crying Newborn:
Once you’ve identified the reason for your baby’s cry, you can start addressing their needs.
Here are some tried and tested methods:
Skin-to-Skin Contact:
Babies often find comfort in the familiar smell and warmth of their parents. Holding your baby close can offer them reassurance.
Shushing Sounds:
Mimic the noise of the womb by whispering a repetitive ‘shush’ close to your baby’s ear.
Swinging and Rocking:
Gentle movement can be comforting for babies. Make sure their head and neck are supported.
Pacifiers:
For some babies, sucking is soothing. If breastfeeding, it’s recommended to introduce a pacifier after breastfeeding is well-established.
Changing the Environment:
Sometimes, a change of scene, like a dimly lit room or some fresh air, can make a difference.
Humming or Singing:
Your voice is a familiar comfort to your baby. Softly singing or humming can be soothing.
When I had my first baby, my mom shared with me that singing the “Shortenin’ Bread” song would always calm me down when I was upset as a baby. So, I tried it with my own baby and it worked! See if there was a special song your mom would sing to you when you were a baby.
Remember, each baby is unique. What works for one might not work for another. It’s a process of trial and error.
Attending to a constantly crying baby can be stressful. Remember to breathe deeply and take short breaks if needed. Sometimes, just stepping out for a few minutes to compose yourself can do wonders. Your calm will also help soothe your baby.
Priscilla Dunstan has all sorts of resources for new moms to learn their baby’s language at dunstanbaby.com.
I wish I had known this secret for my first baby, but at least now I can help you!
(Remember, every baby is unique! While this article offered valuable insights, always trust your instincts and consult with a pediatrician.)
It takes time to understand your baby’s cries fully. With love, patience, and practice, you’ll soon be fluent in your baby’s unique language!
I hope reading Crying or Communicating? The A-Z Guide of Newborn Baby Cries has given you some solid ideas! If you’re still looking for a Huntsville, AL Newborn Photographer Photographer, click here to see my portfolio of Newborn Pictures.
